Are we work friends or real friends?

Happy Sunday! This past week has been super busy for me. I attended a few networking events, which were inspirational and nerve wracking all at the same time. One of the events I went into totally blind which I’ve never done before.

Usually with these events, I’ll extend the invite to my coworkers so we can all take advantage of the networking opportunities AND so I can have someone to hang out with! But often, that leads to “clumping” which is what happens when you go to a networking event but only hang out with your coworkers (not many connections can be made with people you already know)! This event was trying to combat that, and only extended the invite to one person from each firm.

I ended up having the absolute best time and making some new friends but it was so nerve-wracking! Especially because I occasionally get really bad social anxiety. However, knowing that everyone else was in the same boat I was helped ~tremendously~. We also all work in the same field and are around the same age, so conversations flowed easily. Jumping in was definitely the worst part, but it was just like ripping off a band aid. Often in social situations like that, its so easy to feel alone and like you are the only one internally freaking out. However, it’s important to remember that most people probably feel like that!

Going to this event made me reflect on my work friendships. I didn’t even tell them I was going to dinner; instead I waited until the next day to tell them about my previous night. Work friendships are inherently ~slightly~ competitive. I was listening to an NPR story about work relationships and how we all feel bad that we feel a tinge of jealousy whenever our work friends get ahead of us. This article was really reassuring for me because I always felt so bad whenever I was jealous of my coworkers. It doesn’t matter how close your coworkers are, or what the office environment is like, we all want to succeed. It’s hard when you think someone has been given or has taken your “next career move”. I also learned that it’s so possible to be happy for your friend and still be a little frustrated. What’s important is how you handle those emotions, and to make sure you don’t let them ruin your relationships. I just always remind myself that if it wasn’t me, it wasn’t meant to be apart of my story. Sounds cheesy, but that justification works for me.

Having friends at work is so important to your overall wellbeing! I can vent about work to my roommate all day, but she will never understand it in the way my colleague will. Developing those relationships can be tricky, but they are so vital to my life. You can’t develop relationships only through technology, so I challenge all of you to hang out with someone you may not know as well, and to put the phone down while doing so 🙂

Enjoy the rest of your weekend! I love taking this time to reset mentally and physically for the week. Going to go for a walk through the city, which is a much preferred means of exercise rather than spending time in the gym for me.

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